Good questions to ask before dating someone
Letting physical intimacy run wild and free typically means the emotional, spiritual, and personality attraction is lagging behind. Sex while dating can create many awful shades of gray, when what your relationship needs is some honest black and white.One of the greatest causes for conflict in marriage are contradicting core values.
It is imperative that you be ruthlessly honest with yourself. Nothing in life is easier than denying problems when you are in love. It may be normal for couples to fight (though the ratio of loving moments to fights must be high to sustain a loving relationship). And perhaps most important, do you fight over the same issue(s) with no resolution? The best way to ascertain the answer is to take a month off from all sexual contact and see how much you then enjoy each other. What do people you respect think of the person you’re considering marrying?
If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.
Your petals might be beautiful, but if you don’t have any nectar then the bees are just going to fly away. It can prop up an intimacy that has no foundation to sustain it.
Even for men it is common to find a woman physically attractive over time.
In my late 20s, I directed a summer institute for men and women ages 19-25.