Dating someone 4 years younger
"It feels like it wasn't that long ago." When Leah, a national of Singapore, first got to know Travis, who was 10 years her junior, she was attracted to him, but "I tried to tell myself it wouldn't work because of the age difference.I fought those affections like crazy." But as an undeniable connection formed, Leah finally made a bold request: "I told the Lord, unless I hear Travis say, 'The Lord has laid it on my heart that you are to be my wife,' I will not move forward." The night before the two gave a group presentation together, they met to pray.He had graduated from college two months earlier, so we were both in the workforce fulltime.Even though Kevin didn't have as much life experience as I did, our daily lives basically looked the same.If you're considering getting serious with someone significantly older or younger than yourself, these are important things to discuss.
'" Leah also worried she might not always be able to meet Travis' physical needs and wondered if he might one day regret marrying an "old woman" who couldn't keep up with all of his activities. I guess it was because I'd heard two or three stories of the woman being seven years older, so I'd sort of decided that was the outer limit of age difference acceptability. (And I would hit 31 a month before his next birthday.) Feeling defeated, I sat at the small wooden table in Starbucks, where I was meeting Kevin for the first time since my startling discovery. In case you're wondering, I married that guy eight months later. I don't know why this one year made such a difference to me.The problems we were talking through — for example, what if someday our sex drives didn't match up? We were just going to be more proactive about them.The bigger question was whether or not God was drawing us together. Travis was also tentative when he first developed feelings for Leah.