Communication in christian dating relationships
If you know the man well or at least better than what I've just described, but you are not sure whether you are interested in him, I'd encourage you to at least take some time to get to know him before giving an unequivocal "no." Keep in mind that this is different from feigning interest when there isn't any.
There are instances in which you can be genuinely unsure about a guy but still move forward this far.
That's where the following practical suggestions come in.
Note the phrase "practical suggestions." These are not sacrosanct biblical principles.
Guys, tell her why you have initiated or are initiating with her, tell her that you intend to pursue the relationship to determine if marriage is the right choice before God.
In my view, this establishing of intentions should be done near the beginning of any exclusive or romantic time spent together — preferably within the first two or three "dates" during a deliberate conversation on the subject.
If the pastor or elder you ask doesn't know him well, he can guide you to a trustworthy source that knows him better.The first thing that should happen if it has not happened during the initiation of the relationship is that intentions should be established.Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so.From there, you obviously need a response from the woman to know whether or not things will go any further.If you know the woman from church, if you've seen her interact in a group, observed her with others, maybe worked with her as a part of some ministry, that input should be enough for you to think through the decision of whether initiation of a relationship is the right thing.